Tips for having sex pain free..?



i’m 19 years old and I’m practically a virgin. I had sex once but it was barely sex only the tip really went in. I really want to have sex but my body just won’t relax and I get in my own head about it all, even with just fingers it absolutely kills. So I was wondering if anyone had any tips for how I can relax my body and make sex less painful. I have tried lube and it still really hurt.