My husband and myself have been arguing a lot lately. Here is some background: we have been married for almost 4 years and have a 2 year old. When we got married, we agreed that I’d stay home to take care of our daughter and house (I have a seizure disorder and can’t work very easily). He thinks that because he works that he doesn’t have to do anything at home because that’s my job. He wants me to match his schedule of 4 am to 12:30 pm (work) which I believe is unrealistic with a 2 year old. He also thinks that I should be solely responsible for watching our daughter and doing everything else because he is tired from work. He works at Sam’s club and also expects not to do anything on his days off. I’m exhausted all the time and feel like I can’t sleep due to everything I have to do. His paycheck barely covers expenses but he will not look for a better job. He is thinking of re-enlisting in the military which I’m hoping for but he will not stay on top of the paperwork required. He doesn’t know how to pay bills or how much things actually cost (groceries mostly). He is starting to police the finances more and tell me what can be spent (mind you he doesn’t cook, clean, do laundry or pay the bills). I’m not sure what to do. I think he should help and sitting with our daughter while I’m busy shouldn’t be a big deal or giving me a break. I feel like I can’t do anything for myself without it becoming an issue. If I impede on his time, he gets really pissy and if things aren’t done when he wants them, I’m the bad guy. Any advice would be helpful. I have nowhere to go or anyone to talk to about this. His parents baby him and everything is everyone else’s fault. My parents are abusive and manipulative so they are not an option. Please help.