My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and have a son on the way. I’m 8 months pregnant. He also has bipolar.

Lately when we fight, he says a lot of not only hurtful, but also clearly deep-rooted things. Like the last time he told me that he thinks I just sit at home and mope. How I should find something to do, like how I mentioned before that I wanted to quit my job and do doordash but never did.

But instead, I got let go from my job bc of discrimination just a month or so ago. I tried to email and work something out with them to finish out until maternity leave but they wouldn’t even answer. I don’t have my license yet (I meant to but got side tracked with covid and pregnancy). I haven’t really bothered to job search since bc 1.) Covid scares me and we’ve already had enough scares with the baby, 2.) I feel like it’d be kind of pointless to start now when we are about to have him, 3.) We agreed on me being a stay at home mom, and 4.) I don’t think any place would hire someone 8 months pregnant

This time, he took something I said the wrong way and thought I was trying to fight (I was trying to express that I was upset about something). So he tells me that he feels like even tho he tries nothing is good enough for me, that I’m always upset about something, etc. But any time we aren’t fighting, he tells me everything is good, tells me he’s in love with me and wants to marry me. Is super affectionate. I’ll even straight up ask him if me being hormonal is bothering him and he tells me no. When I bring this up, he says he just tries to make it work.

Last time an issue like this came up, he did the same thing (hid his real feelings about something) then turned around and dumped me. Then turned around and said that he wanted to work through things and didn’t want to lose me. This time, we took some space to cool down (we both cried) and now he’s not really talking but he’s trying to be super affectionate. But I’m really starting to feel like I just look like an idiot, staying and that he’s not really happy 💔