Why do so many people break up after having a baby?

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Obviously it’s a huge relationship change and test to have a baby together but why do so many relationships fail because of it?

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Having a baby enhances what already there. Most people think babies make your relationship better.

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Having a baby will bring out the ugly side of things. You forget who you were before the baby . As a couple and a person . You spend less time together .. little things bud you more . More stress involved . So many reasons .

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Hormones, sleep deprivation, depression from one or both parents, someone not stepping up, financial strain etc highlights and accelerates problems that were already there.   No one should stay together “for the kids” because it almost never ends up benefiting the kids.  My mom tried that and we lived in a very stressful contentious household because of it.

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Having a child tests everything you are as individuals, and everything your relationship is.

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In my experience with my ex. We were just "trophies", he only like the idea of having a family it seem. But not putting in the work at all. Other problems too like being abusive shit. 
Most relationships fail for many things, not sharing same wants or values/views in life is major part I believe. Which can lead to not sharing the same parenting "style" and make co parenting difficult. 
There some people who believe a baby can make someone stay or fix things. Which is a horrible reason for having a baby. I strongly believe no one should stay for kids as it can lead to many different problems.

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For women we go thru a lot of changes during pregnancy and postpartum. Our priorities change. Then we sometimes are hormonal. Some men (& women) take longer to adapt to being a parent. That causes stress and arguments. Some men struggle with the changes and hormones of a pregnant woman and run or commit infedelity. And then the change in finances is a big one too. Couples fight if one parent is irresponsible with money and the other is left with the load. It can be really hard for some and then easier for others.

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Some people I know decide to have a baby because they feel something is missing and a baby will fill that gap. That is not the case and their relationships tend to break because of it.

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After having g a child a lot of people don’t recognize what lack of sleep, sex, communication, and union does. There are so many factors. We all have so high expectations of each other and we tend to blame each other a lot without having communication along with baby blues, hormones and postpartum for moms and dads. There is so much pressure and you quickly lose sight of why you even wanted to have a family in the beginning. You are so exhausted and want love from your partner as a partner but also a parent. If they’re not doing things in your “expectations” then you can start to resent them which isn’t good at all. One parent usually feels like they’re doing everything, they’re not valued, their feelings aren’t valid, they’re being ignored and unappreciated, and all that. But all it takes is team work, understanding, respect one another and their feelings/space, and remember it’s you and him vs the problem, not you vs him. That’s so important.

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Because its so freaking hard

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Because it’s stressful. My husband and I almost divorced when my son was 7 months old. Thankfully we made it through and we’re much better off now, but that’s a hard first year.

Why do so many people break up after having a baby?

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