Fiancé and stripper preference?

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I’m a black female engaged to a white man. So we’re planning our bachelorette/bachelor parties. It’s a small group but I wanted to make sure we all got the dates right. Anyways, I asked fiancé what dates he agreed on and he said “idk check my group messages” so I go in his phone messages and search “bachelor” and it takes me to his text thread, I scroll a bit and see something about strippers. Here’s how it went 
Mate: would she mind if we got you a stripper? 
Fiancé: no she said she don’t mind 
Mate: good cause we got one 
Fiancé: she better not be black.
Mate: 🤐
Fiancé: 😖
I asked what the hell he meant and he just started cracking up laughing saying it’s a joke it’s a joke. I don’t mind strippers at all but what he said made me feel a bit insecure.

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I would take it as either he doesn't want to think of me,  or offensive as  in white is better either way, I would make him cancel that stripper for saying Such bull

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Ima assume he hs a fetish or weakness foe black women. And this was a joke that things may getbout of hand if she is black😌 because he likes em. I personally wouldnt invite a stripper. I never understood why if u dont allow strippers in ya relationship.... all of a sudden before promoting rhe relationship to an even more serious level u celebrate by adding naked people🧐🙊💀

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I’m black married to a white man, I’d definitely feel some type of way especially with the emoji he used. Almost like he’d be grossed out if she were black? It’s hard as black women to date outside our race cause you never know if they’re low key racist and the type where “you’re not that type of black person so I like you” which seems like the case here. My husband loves black women, period, he always has but he’d never do strippers for anything cause it makes him uncomfortable. This is definitely something that needs to be discussed more in depth.

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I mean I’d need an explanation for that one. No way I’d let it go

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I feel like when I initially read it meaning he wouldn’t like it if she was cause that’s not what he liked that but that can’t be the case since y’all are getting married. So that leads me to believe he might be too into it if shes black? I’m really confused

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That's really questionable. Like why is that even a joke

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Explain the joke🧐🙊💀

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I take the emoji as something happened in the past and the friend is like “I’m not talking” and the fiancé is remembering a bad memory or something crazy that happened. 
Maybe he gets too into them 🤷‍♀️

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I dont know but thats interesting. Is he saying it because black is hia fetish or weakness?

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😐😐 I’d be asking him to explain the joke to me. 
My fiancé is white (passing) and I would not be happy in this situation.

Fiancé and stripper preference?

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