Why is it that the next woman get the man I wanted him to be?

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Why can’t he have loved me like he loves her?  I expected him to come crawling back years ago but he never did. I tried getting him to at least have sex with me and got turned down flat. How can he want her that much over me when we been together five years and have kids together?  Even when she’s not around, if I say something about her, he’s forever defending her.  It’s irritating 😠. I did everything for this man; now he’s defending the woman who broke us up for good. Going so far as to tell me that she didn’t do anything wrong. Well sure she as hell knew I was pregnant when they started up. He tried keeping the relationship from me but I knew something was up when he wasn’t even attempting to talk about our problems with me. Nope he just took off the first chance he got which makes me question if he had been interested in her for years. Why couldn’t he love me and be there for me?  
We went through do much together and it hurts to know that he probably never even thinks of it or remembers it.

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Because you weren’t the one, it sucks but that’s life.

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It doesn't matter what you do for people, they are not required to love you because you love them. Leave that man alone and let him be happy

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She didn’t do anything. She had no loyalty to you. He did. Ultimately you just weren’t the one for him. Eventually you’ll get over it. He’s suppose to defend her when you talk crap about her if they’re together.

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Girl do yourself a favour 
Stop making yourself the asshole 
Stop talking shit about his new woman 
Stop comparing your relationships 
Just move on. Only speak to him about kids. 
Find a man that wants you. It ain’t him. 
Just because you have kids doesn’t entitle you to a relationship with him. It also doesn’t make his new partner a bitch or whatever you call her. 
You’re the asshole in this scenario.

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Need to suck it up buttercup. Clearly he never loved you.sit there and wish and wish and wish but it's never going to happen he made his choice. He lad you on until he no longer needed you. he a boy go find yourself a man.

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there’s literally millions of other people, why would you continue to fight for someone who doesn’t want you back? wasted energy and time girl

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Sometimes you’re not the right person for him even if you want him. 
Move on. 
It’s normal for someone to have multiple sexual/romantic partners. That means many people aren’t the right people for each other. Sometimes men grow up, sometimes they mature, sometimes it’s literally just the difference in human which seems to be the case here. He’s done with you. That’s it.

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He doesn’t sound like such a great dude anyway if he started having a relationship with some girl while you were pregnant, unless you guys weren’t together. But it doesn’t matter who he is now, he wasn’t good for you so￼ you shouldn’t still be pining over him.

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You need to move on, sometimes it's just not meant to be. He's simply more compatible with someone else. Was the way he went about it right? No. But it's over and you weren't the one for him, you will find someone for you.

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1, you need to stop slagging his new girlfriend off, of course he is going to defend her. 
2, as another comment said, she didn’t do anything wrong to you, she has no loyalties to you, she didn’t cheat on you, he did. 
3, if he wasn’t happy with you, then so be it. It doesn’t matter what you do for a person, if you wasn’t right for him then you need to get over that. 
4, you really need to move on and worry about your children, you look like a jealous bad person especially slagging her off, it’s childish and unnecessary.

Why is it that the next woman get the man I wanted him to be?

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