Bringing up seperation

Just wondering how people have brought up separation?

I guess I owe some back story. I always knew my husband didn’t want kids, or even liked kids. We broke up in 2010 because I knew what I wanted. Flash forward to 2014, he comes around again. Claims he has new wants in life (ie kids) and things start up. He had a previous engagement go south and he says he learned what’s important in life.

2016, we welcome our first daughter and he changes. I know he’s regretted it but tries to hide it. He really has no connection to her. After a insistent, I left for a month. He says that was a wake up call and realized his “errors”.

2021, we welcome our second daughter and it’s like something snapped. If our newborn cries too long or spits up, he goes into a fit of rage where nothing stops him. If our daughter has a coughing fit, he breaks something and screams to the point where our nb is afraid and cries.

I know that I should have known better. I know deep down people don’t change but I genuinely don’t want to leave my kids with him. He is extremely short tempered. I think his mind goes elsewhere and he blacks out his outbursts. I know he’s unhappy but won’t leave because it’ll make him look bad but we are both not happy.

I guess I just need some advice on how to bring this up. I know once our kids are grown, we would divorce but I can’t go that long. He’s by far my biggest regret in life. I don’t know how to bring this up where he won’t lose his mind.

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Set up a hidden camera, just in case he gets nasty you can use it in the divorce. Get your lawyer before you need them.Ask someone to babysit your kids so they don't have to see the outburst. Consider having a friend in a different room while you have the conversation.