Bringing up seperation
Just wondering how people have brought up separation?
I guess I owe some back story. I always knew my husband didn’t want kids, or even liked kids. We broke up in 2010 because I knew what I wanted. Flash forward to 2014, he comes around again. Claims he has new wants in life (ie kids) and things start up. He had a previous engagement go south and he says he learned what’s important in life.
2016, we welcome our first daughter and he changes. I know he’s regretted it but tries to hide it. He really has no connection to her. After a insistent, I left for a month. He says that was a wake up call and realized his “errors”.
2021, we welcome our second daughter and it’s like something snapped. If our newborn cries too long or spits up, he goes into a fit of rage where nothing stops him. If our daughter has a coughing fit, he breaks something and screams to the point where our nb is afraid and cries.
I know that I should have known better. I know deep down people don’t change but I genuinely don’t want to leave my kids with him. He is extremely short tempered. I think his mind goes elsewhere and he blacks out his outbursts. I know he’s unhappy but won’t leave because it’ll make him look bad but we are both not happy.
I guess I just need some advice on how to bring this up. I know once our kids are grown, we would divorce but I can’t go that long. He’s by far my biggest regret in life. I don’t know how to bring this up where he won’t lose his mind.
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