Advice : UPDATE

UPDATE: to everyone who has responded and commented on my post, THANK YOU 🙌 I really do appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. I opened up to several close friends and asked them what they though. Having a serious conversation with him, and setting boundaries was the advice I got. The first time he does it again, act on your plans to leave. So we sat down the other night and had the difficult conversation about how things need to change. He agreed that things aren’t always as they should be and that he would also like for things to be better. I told him to try to bond better with my daughter by taking her to get ice cream, or read a book together so she can start to feel more comfortable around him rather than always feeling like she’s doing something wrong, etc. If things don’t change or I see these behaviors coming out again - NO SECOND CHANCES. My daughter is at her dads for the next few days but we will see how things are when she returns this weekend. I will post an update.

I got a divorce two years ago when my daughter was 2 years old. A year later, I wound up pregnant with my new boyfriend and we later got married. Things started out great, but now that our daughter was born, I can see how much he loves his daughter, but not my daughter. In fact, he is almost very rude to her. She is four now, about to be five. And she is literally the sweetest thing with the biggest heart. She tries so hard to love him but he doesn’t give her any reason to love him. For example: he will call her a baby. And she will start to cry and then he will keep saying it over and over again. “Baby, Baby, Baby, you’re a baby” Or he will laugh at her for little accidents and mistakes she makes. Like when she wet her pants because she couldn’t hold it. It’s gotten to the point where I am ready to leave. He is awesome to our baby (his) and he is a great dad to her. But this is not fair to my oldest daughter. She will be with me all day and not shed a tear but the minute he comes home she will cry because he will say something. He’s not physically abusive or I wouldn’t be typing this and I’d already be gone. But I worry he is being emotionally abusive to her. Should I leave?