I'm a FTM and I went for my 31 week antenatal appointment today, there was some confusion and with lockdown my 28 week was missed (small, island 1 Doctor 1 midwife). Everything seemed fine I went in with some questions, blood pressure fine, urine test fine so on, then I had to lie down and be measured. Now I'm not carrying very big and it very much depends on what position baby is in, sometimes I'm huge sometimes not, anyway, so after I'm measured the doctor then comes in and basically accused me of being an alcoholic because the fundal height hadn't changed or wasn't were it should be. All I was told was that due to my excessive drinking and smoking (neither of which are true) I had to go for a growth scan, she didn't bother explaining if there was an issue and what that might mean, just that something was wrong and it was my fault. I'm supposed to be going back for blood tests Thursday but I'm seriously considering if I should cancel, the stress that this has caused is crazy. I can't eat or sleep because I'm terrified something is wrong, and I'm angry about how it's been handled, and additionally non of my questions were answered, I'm now worried about support after the birth. I honestly feel absolutely crushed, I will hold my hands up and say I have had the odd cigarette since being pregnant, I've also had some prosseco during a celebration, but I wouldn't say either of these make me an alcoholic or a bad person or mother. I just feel completely isolated, that the people I should have been able to ask for help have shown that's clearly not true.

I'm sorry if this is in the wrong group.