So, my husband and I are each other’s firsts and I personally don’t believe in the whole experience thing because I believe everyone’s different. Plus we are Christians and decided to wait, and regardless of what I say in this post, I don’t want to hear anything from anyone saying “that’s why you don’t wait”... I’m so glad I waited and I wouldn’t change it for anything...

Anyways now that that’s out of the way.

But I’ve had such a hard time finishing when we have sex.. he isn’t small by any means and it feels amazing, but I can’t finish. And honestly, it’s frustrating for both of us mainly because, he feels really really bad that he hasn’t made me finish yet which in turn makes me upset because my body is so difficult and frustrating. I sorta feel like a disappointment??

I really don’t want to resort to vibrators until I have nothing left to try... he’s used his fingers for clit stimulation which made me come close but only a little bit and right as he stops using his fingers everything goes away... he’s used his fingers for a long long time and I feel bad cause I don’t want him exhausting himself just to make me finish. Even if he goes at it for a while, nothing happens... he penetrates deep and it feels good but still, nothing happens. I’ve tried being on top, we’ve tried it from the back, he’s tried different movements and just nothing.. I sorta feel broken because NOTHING IS WORKING. I’ve made myself finish before with a shower head... and that’s the only thing that’s worked so far.

But I really think it will work without a vibrator of sorts...

Does mental state play into finishing?? Does my mental state need to be different?? Are my hormones maybe messed up?? Or what??? Anyways thanks for listening

Edit:

Thank you so much for all of your feedback I so so so appreciate it!!

Again, as I mentioned, I don’t really want to resort to the shower head or a vibrator. I just want to be able to do it without all of that. I know there’s nothing wrong with it. I would just rather try and get my body to go with only my husband 👍