Was I wrong? 😥

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Tell me your honest opinion. So I was talking to my sister bc my family told me “what are you gonna do if your husband leaves you?” I’m 23 and we have a baby together (planned baby) and my family isn’t used to someone being young to have a baby so they bashed me and continue to. My husband has provided SO MUCH for us. He’s the absolute best! He’s really happy with his life and so am I. So I told my sister “i really don’t know why they’d say that to me? If he decided one day that he wasn’t happy and left me and our son, I wouldn’t feel like my life we as ended.” I told my husband “Babe, is it bad that i feel like if you were to leave us, i wouldn’t feel like my world was ending? That I would continue to live life and be independent?” And he said no that’s not bad & that he agrees I would be independent but I feel kinda wrong for telling him that. I love that man so much but I feel bad. Did I say something wrong?

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it’s not wrong. my fiancé said that to me too. it’s perfectly ok to not be so dependant you wouldn’t survive without your partner.

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Codependency = needing someone
Healthy relationship = choosing someone
The way you feel just shows you are a smart, mature and well rounded person.

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They are weird. Like why does that matter? I hate when people do this.

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Nope and its a wise mentality to have. You should always have a back up plan because lets face it ... things happen. And does your sis have a partner? Why did she ask u that question especially if youre married?

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That’s obnoxious of your family. Like wtf. You’re in a happy healthy relationship with someone you’re married to, and you brought life into this world. Why do they have to be so negative. 
And no, but something I would have kept to myself

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No your family are just being cunts

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Not wrong at all, I'd be shattered if my finace left me and my child  but I wouldn't go to pieces. I'd carry on because my world doesn't revolve around him, I have my own assets, my own life, my own job etc. I would raise my daughter and maybe even find happiness with someone else eventually. I wouldn't waste time on someone that decided they suddenly didn't want me 🤷‍♀️ 
If he was taken from me suddenly, like if he died or something then I would find that harder because it wasn't the end of our love story, but again I wouldn't think my life had ended, and he wouldn't want that for me either. 
I'm very much of the opinion that a relationship doesn't complete you, you need to be a whole person by yourself because relying on other people to make you happy is a risky game to be playing. Be your own happiness and be with people that enhance your life. If someone suddenly leaves you then they aren't adding to your happiness and you're better off without that person.

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My husband knows I don’t need him to survive, sure it might be hard for a bit but I’d pick myself up and figure it out. I tell him I’m with him because I want to be with him, I always found that it’s better to want someone while in a relationship than need them, a lot of people call me cold for telling my husband that but he takes it as a compliment. If I need him then I’m only sticking around with him because he fulfills those needs but me wanting him is me sticking around soley for him as a person

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No it’s not wrong it’s just a weird thing to say.

Was I wrong? 😥

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