Epic communication fail on my in laws part that has me reevaluating their help

For the second time in a row my in laws fumble the ball when I asked a favor of them. The fact they didn't or couldn't do the favor is not why I'm upset with them.

What ticks me off is how they don't tell me that... I will ask a favor of them, they'll be like yeah sure that's fine we can do that but when the time comes they don't show up I'd have to call them and they'd be like oh something came up, yeah....

So then my issue is well you couldn't call I've been waiting for you.

I try to be as clear as I can so there's no confusing, I also take in their feelings and opinions and if they can't help me out with something that's cool what's not cool is saying you can do something then not showing then acting stupid when I call.

It may be harsh to call them stupid but I can't think of any other word atp.

I also feel like it was deliberate, ya know like they do this on purpose when they want to do something when it doesn't have to be like this and all they have to do is say that.

When it happened the first time I gave them the benefit of the doubt shit happens but the very next time I asked for help, a month later, thee exact same thing happens 🤔 I'm feeling like y'all being shady.

It was a trigger, before I met my husband I was a struggling mom in college with my 4 year old daughter. I was let down by my family and her father's family after they'd offered to help but end up not following through.

Don't say nobody is obligated to help you. This is not what this is, the helping hand was extended but snatched away at the last second and I also paid my people for their time but when I realized I had no help. I put on my big girl boots, put my baby in daycare and it was UP!

I stopped answering these same people when they needed me. Now I have a husband and we have five kids. His family extended the same helping hand but like I said they been shady lately so I'm taking a step back. My husband feels like it was honest mistake and he knows their heart which I don't fault him for but I still feel the way I feel. He's going to get to the bottom of it he knows I'm in independent mode and I won't ask them to do anything ever. This will hurt their feelings but it's a consequence of the cluster fuck they caused. It was all super simple but they made it so hard.

I genuinely would like to know am I tripping? Is it wrong to say hey I'm cool on you? Even if I'm wrong in this situation I'm still gon do what I do I just want to know! Thanks ladies!