I’ve been on here a few times asking for advice about my daughters father and his family. Well since then, I’ve left him and have my own place. The reason I was on here prior was because I started working and my in laws wanted to watch my daughter (the only reason I took the job) and everyone said it would be a good idea, I paid them but saved as it would be more to have her in day care and it seemed like a great idea.. turned out I was wrong, his father began being very rough with my daughter, I was noticing bruises on her, her behaviour changed, and just overall the environment was shit. I would come home to a 1.5 year old alone in the backyard and I’d wait to see where he was, 5-10-15 mins would go by, he’s still nowhere to be found and I did not like that at all. She could get into so many poisonous things, get hurt on the stairs, eat dog shit, he had tools everywhere all that. He is an alcoholic and at the time I was unaware, he would get drunk and just leave her, he would get drunk and drive with her, he would get drunk and be aggressive with her and while this was new information I got her the fuck out of that environment. I had literally zero idea. I lived with them for a short period and I would see him like grab her and drag her really hard then scream at her, she would stand on the coffee table ledge and he would push her so hard she’d go flying and cry like shit was fucked up, I would look at my MIL and her father in awe like you guys really aren’t going to defend an innocent child? You bet your ass I lost it, I lost my mind on him, my mil and daughters father. NOBODY lays their hands on my daughter. It was a whole shit show, the last time he had her she ended up in the hospital and the conclusion was she had gotten into something bad, her heart rate was crazy high, blood pressure high and oxygen low. She was laying unconscious & we were moved from different hospitals via ambulance while the two couldn’t figure out what was wrong, the third hospital which was a paediatric hospitals was the one who said that she got into something. They asked me if I did anything or seen her get into anything and I was just so cluster fucked, like I had no idea what it could’ve been & they released her when she went back to normal. I’m lucky they didn’t call child services but I think they knew I would never do anything to her and that it was when she was not in my care. It was completely devastating, I’ll never forget walking in and seeing her unconscious in her high chair and just the thought that I’d loose her or I was going to, my whole world blew up. I was a mess.

Now that you know the storyline on the problems I faced with my exes family listen to this.

We’ve been separated and he hasn’t been coming around until recently, I agreed that he could keep her on the weekend but at his sisters house (where he lives) come to find out yesterday evening, he decided to drop her off at his parents so he could get drunk with his sister and friends! I lost it, I told him to just bring her back to me, I had no problem keeping her and the only reason she was with him is because I want her to have a relationship with her dad not for him to pawn off being a parent because its inconvenient to his life. The whole night I was just freaking, my heart was racing, I couldn’t breathe, think, sleep or eat. I do NOT want her in those peoples care, they are AWFUL and there’s nothing I can do. I’m trying to pull up photos and recordings I took of them and go to court and somehow have it set where she can’t be left unintended in his parents care. I don’t want to completely shut her grandparents out but she needs to be watched while with them, she shouldnt be left alone in a room with his dad let alone a whole night! I don’t know how he can sit here and defend himself on why he thought it was great idea to leave her there, he knows all the things that have happened? It just doesn’t make sense?