Hey all :)

So as a FTM, I feel like I’ve made some decisions that were very trial and error. For example, I had such bad anxiety and depression worrying about SIDS after having 2 miscarriages that I would always swaddle and binkie our daughter to keep her feeling secure and used the binkie to keep her mouth occupied so she would remember to breath (not sure why I felt this way but 🤦🏻‍♀️). Now that my PPD has cleared up a lot, my 7 month old is now stuck in the terrible routine I’ve put her in for my own sanity. They apparently don’t make the type of swaddle I use past a certain size and she’s quickly outgrowing her last one. She absolutely will not sleep without it. I’ve let her crying for 20-25 minutes (if she’s swaddled she will settle down in about 2 minutes) and she cries hysterically with full force. I bought a transition swaddle but it doesn’t hold her tight enough like the Velcro one does. I can’t even get her to take naps in her crib to try and transition her from bassinet to crib because she’s also quickly outgrowing her bassinet. I know I should probably try and let her self soothe longer but she cries so hard that I can hear breaks in her breathing and that freaks me out. I’m hoping some mom veterans have some tips and tricks to help fix this 😞 I’m asking for help now because I’m getting a lot of backlash from my family that my 7 month old is still swaddled in bassinet in our room.