No means no right??

Question

So I rarely want to have sex with my boyfriend.  after having our daughter and getting on birth control my sex drive went down to ZERO (I use the mirena) I just do not crave it at all like I did before. Anyway every time he touches me I say stop or I move away and he’s always like why don’t you let me touch you?? You never let me anymore. All I can say is idk I just don’t want to?? And sometimes when I say stop he’s like “just a little bit?” And continues to touch. Like I said no, I said stop. Then he proceeds to ask why can’t he. Then he’ll get but hurt and turn around and ignore me like WHAT you’re the one touching me?? We haven’t had sex for almost 2 months going on three. Should I feel bad?

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You’re right, no means no and you have a right to not want to be touched... however, he also has a right to his feelings. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine how you’d feel if he suddenly didn’t want to be touched by you. He’s probably feeling like you don’t find him attractive or worthy anymore. I think you should talk to him about what’s been going on and that it’s nothing to do with him, just that you’ve not been feeling it lately. 
If you feel like it’s taking a toll on your relationship, consider going to a doctor and having this discussion. They may have some ideas or have an alternative.

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Yes, no means no.
Also, sexual intimacy can be incredibly important in a relationship. For some people it’s a top priority, for others less so.
You are entitled to your feelings, but he is also entitled to his. A dramatic drop in sex and intimacy might be a deal breaker for him.
It sounds like couples therapy, and individual therapy for you, would be a good choice.

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I mean, I understand where you’re coming from. But you gotta do something about your sex drive girl. Your husbands feelings are also important, and he wants to know that his wife still finds him attractive. I know I would be incredibly hurt if my husband was telling me no for 2 months. 
If you don’t fix this, your marriage may suffer.

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So personally, I’m not a relationship expert but I have 3 kids and I’m pregnant again. I am exhausted and never want to have sex. Although, I do it to please my husband even tho I don’t want to all the time. He has needs and I would rather suck it up and have sex with the person I love rather than have him go someplace else. Eventually I believe if they aren’t getting it from their significant other they will go somewhere else. Sorry to sound shallow but that’s what I believe.

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No means no even just for touching. Also be careful this is getting on the edge of corhorced consent. Do not say yes just to get him to stop asking or make him happy because he keeps pushing it’s not truly consent because you’re not doing it because you want to do it.

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Right. No means no.
However, you have to understand that your partner is reaching out to make a connection with you. He is asking for intimacy, that only you can provide since you are in the confines of a married union. More than sex, hes desiring touch and comfort. 
You are getting hung up on the verbiage of being "right". Your bigger concern should be your partner looking for something you refuse to provide and figuring out why you feel this way...before your union falls apart.
I hope you arent suprised when I tell you that this situation is NOT sustainable long term. Figure out what the issue is, do your part to connect and put the effort in before you end up mitigating an affair or in divorce court becuase that's where you are headed. 
Best of luck.

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Three months? You have the right to say no but he has the right to some intimacy from his partner. If my husband decided we would only be intimate every three months, I would end our marriage. I want my partner to feel desired and comfortable coming to me knowing he won’t get turned down every single time.

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No, you should not feel bad. You tell him no, that means no. When he continues trying, he’s trying to coerce you. Put your foot down and tell him that he needs to respect your lack of consent or you won’t be with him any more

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Yes no means no but you should also explain to him why and how you’re feeling so that maybe he understands and also as hard as it is and I’ve been here just try. My husband and I didn’t have sex for almost two years after my daughter was born bc my drive was absolutely nothing but at random times I just pushed myself to do it bc we both have needs and we both need to be happy and after we got into it I actually enjoyed it and trust me I really do understand how hard it is but you also don’t want to lose your relationship over something pretty simple. I know I could’ve bc it really does frustrate men ALOT more than women and men enjoy having sex with us bc that’s when they feel the absolute closest to us even though they’ll never admit it but they miss that closeness and connection. Take a day and totally pamper yourself and try to have some intimate time with your significant other and get that connection and it’ll make not just him but you feel ALOT better! Good luck mama!

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UPDATE. Thanks for all the comments ladies! aside from the fact that I have been cheated on so many times just by him and him also supposedly getting another woman pregnant I think I’ve had my fair share of dealing with a lot he also doesn’t help with our kid such as taking her to day care picking her up from daycare getting her dressed things like that he also doesn’t cook nor clean. Also for some reason he seems to only know how to make girl friends and he doesn’t know how to make guy friends so he’ll add new girls on his Snapchat almost every day he has a girl best friend that he talks to almost every day if not almost every week. Soooo yeah there’s more then just this.

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