Hi there!

I’m 24 weeks and two days, during a time that should be a happy one I am a quarter bit sad due to a weighing person. My dad and his mother. I was given up to my maternal grandma who raised me. She is my nana, I love her so much. I have an ok relationship with my mother. My dad brought me around drugs and drug deals, hit my mom in front of me, brought me in areas of danger. I now live with trauma years later. He’s also told me he brought me in this world so he can take me right out any time he wants. He really scares me and I have major ptsd/anxiety now. I haven’t seen him in a few years since he showed up uninvited at a family party and got in my face and screamed at me high off drugs. His mother, my paternal crazy grandma, has enabled him her whole life. She defends him in any moment she can and always undermines my suffering and tells me I’m wrong and a bad daughter. Mind you my dad was in and out of jail and on drugs around me, selling drugs showing me his guns during childhood visitations!!! But she will never tell me he was wrong for that!

Now that I’m expecting she called me recently to tell me off. She told me off about who I am and belittled me. Said that I’m carrying HIS grandson and basically threatening me that I have to let him back in my life because of that. I’m in pain. I have a relationship with my dads side of the family, my aunt, also her daughter who is my best friend. They all love me and understand me. I’m afraid my grandma will try to bring me to court to get him rights. Is that even possible? My fiancé, the dad to be, doesn’t want him involved at all in our sons life just like how I feel. I should feel safe knowing that, but I’m still scared and I feel immense sadness over this it’s like I can’t be happy and move on from my absent abusive father. This grandmother is ruining me and does not care what I have to say. She argued with me for almost an hour.

Please help me! What would you do if you were me? Should I worry about court over a convicted felon? Should I let her see my son? Or should I start ignoring her? I’m so tied. My grandpa is 99 and the only way I can talk to him is through her. He’s like her prisoner it’s terrible.

Thank you all.