Please help

I’m seeing this new guy, and I have a 15 month old, and he has 2 kids and he only just got out of a 3 year relationship 6 weeks ago.

I told him that I want to take it slow that he still needs to sort out a lot with his ex and the house etc .. I love being around him, I loved going out on our date Friday , he makes me laugh, he brought me flowers. He’s amazing.. but the only thing is that I don’t want to be the rebound girl. I have told him that I said we need to take it slow for a few months, so he has time to deal with things emotionally and physically.

Last night he wanted to see me but I already was seeing my friend and I said if she does cancel on me I’ll let him know, he then said “ I want to be your first option not a bail one 🤣”

Which kinda made me jump back a bit.

I have already been in a shit relationship for 7 years. My ex was toxic and abusive and controlling.. and I don’t want that again.

After I spoke to him about how I feel today, we agreed on taking things slow.

I saw him last Friday night for our date, today for a bit too, and week before that I saw him Thursday and Friday night .

He said to me tonight if we can have a movie night tomorrow night but I’m having really bad nights with my child latley, she’s going through a regression and it’s kicking my ass so bad. I said to him we will just keep Friday for our date, as I can’t do tomorrow as I’m having bad days/nights with my daughter. ( on Friday nights my parents have her ) so i got the night off.

And he kinda cracked it a bit and was blunt..

I just don’t know what to think? What do you think? Please just help me out.