I really need some advice 😩🏠

Guys, Girls I really need some advice!! I’m so stuck and I don’t know what to do!!

I always have someone in my ear telling me their fears with why things won’t work.. So I got on here because it’s The only other thing that I know to do because I know you guys aren’t bias. So give it to me straight. Imma tell you EVERYTHING.

Me and my boyfriend started dating at 18 seven years ago. we were still seniors in high school so I still live with my parents.

He was just getting out of foster care and didn’t have anywhere to go so my grandparents offered  A place to stay.

Now he didn’t stay there long he actually moved back in with one of his old foster parents and then after that one of his friends. But that’s besides the point. 

We both quit high school and moved in together.. got jobs. But the thing is neither of us ever could hold down a job.

So we stayed depending on my family for money we didn’t have or for food when we didn’t have it etc.

Fast forward to when we had our son. We’ve had an apartment for three years it was income-based so it wasn’t hard for us to keep it and we had ebt.



We both had good jobs and life was in our favor... until our apartment manager told us that we were making too much and then we couldn’t stay here any longer..

so we had to move and around that time I also had my daughter..

So we had to move and that’s when life started getting harder again. My boyfriend lost his job and I was the only one making income for a while bills started packing up so we would try to sell any and everything so we would make rent

 We only had one car and my boyfriend didn’t have a license so only one of us could work unless we worked together. So I decided it would be best if he worked and I stayed with the kids. So I quit my job.

He got a really good job and life was looking up again. But then our car broke down... he lost his job and we got evicted...

We all moved in with my grandparents. In their two spare rooms.

But we were always grateful we had somewhere with a roof over our heads and somewhere to lay at night. My boyfriend kept moving out.. he wanted to go back to his Hometown two hours away because there’s more job opportunities and he has family there

 with that always means that he would leave us and after a week or two would you by it got to him and he always would move back.. so he didn’t make much progress.. 

And then 2020 hit. We were all jobless for seems like a year and a half.. and that gave us a great amount of time to think about what we wanna do in life and how to achieve it.

 I got my GED in 2020 and see a brighter future. Even thinking about college. Maybe? My boyfriend is still working on getting his GED. And he gets his drivers license on Monday.

it is now May 2021 and we are ready to move out and move on with our lives. We’ve been looking for places to rent since January.. but living in a small town has its pros and cons..

 pros there’s about 2000 people in the whole town so you know everyone, I know where everything is.. cons there’s no jobs here and you have to travel about an hour to get anywhere and there is rarely anything for rent.

 me and my boyfriend want to move to his hometown two hours away.. that would mean moving two hours away from my family. I’ve discussed it with my family and they have discussed their concerns with me

 I believe they fear that we will mess up again and we will not hold down jobs.. and since we have children. who will watch the children? We would be two hours away.  they discussed many times that they don’t think that we should move out of my hometown at all not even 30 minutes away or an hour away..

 and I feel like this is holding us back.. because I’ve looked at the rentals in my boyfriends hometown and there are tons there in our price range and there are tons of jobs that he can work at and there’s even like at work at home jobs that I can do or I could work when he got off a couple days a week..

 but then I think about all the fears that my family have pushed onto me and I don’t believe it would work.. but I feel like we need to do this if we move two hours away we can’t depend on anyone and we have to do everything right are we be homeless..

I keep getting a strong feeling like it’s time like I need to go there and I don’t know if it’s me wanting to just move out and get out of here or if it’s God telling me that it’s time to go do some things on my own. To prove that I can do it.

What do you guys think? Give it to me straight?