Family drama

This is gonna be long and a rant about family so... I’m 23 weeks pregnant today. And I got in the dumbest fight with my mom and she told me everything wrong with me. Because she told me she was getting annoyed my hubby hasn’t gotten his Covid vaccine yet. And I told her “I know you’re not going to like this but that’s none of your business that’s his choice if he’s going to rush and get it” then she said “well you have a baby on the way” and I said “okay and not everyone is getting it” after she just said my brother wasn’t getting it and she was fine with it. Then I said I wasn’t gonna get it if I’m breastfeeding and she told me yet again that just because I have all these wants and needs in my pregnancy that it’s not going to go the way I want and I’m not gonna have a perfect birth or have all these amazing things. And I said “you always think that because you had a c section, they might as well cut him out and then do whatever it doesn’t matter what I want” and then she told me I was being rude because the baby could hear me and that calling him a little shit or calling him a fetus as a joke a literal joke was wrong cause he can hear me. Then she continued on to say I didn’t care about him if I talk about him like that. She continued on to saying that no one in my family talks to me because they’re afraid of me which is literally the dumbest thing. She said they don’t ask for updates because they’re afraid I won’t text them back. I’m sorry but I don’t have an update every single day about him, he’s kicking he’s moving why do I have to text my whole family that. I texted my aunt and family after the anatomy scan and I haven’t seen the dr since so what am I supposed to do? She went on about how if my in laws are so great then just to leave the family and say screw it. And that I’m not happy in my city because I have no one when I had no one in my other city either. She told me all I do is complain about work all day yet all she does is bitch and complain about my grandma. And I don’t have a relationship with my grandma and she’s trying to force it. My grandma has accused my mom of going through her Amazon. She didn’t appreciate anything my aunt/mom did when her dog passed she didn’t want the ashes. She blocked me on Facebook and then has the nerve to say I blocked her, which I proved to all of them. She’s mad that she can’t share things with my grandma and it’s like the stuff I tell you isn’t to share. First off when I was 8 weeks my grandma told me I was ungrateful and I needed god and prayers for my drama because I posted a quote on my Facebook as I always do. I started cramping the same day and had light bleeding. I freaked out. Then I had my first dr appt and my mom was mad because I was there for 4 hours and hadn’t seen the dr and thought I was avoiding her. Then I tell everyone everything and send it as I’m driving because no one could wait. Then at my gender reveal my grandma made it all about her by saying my moms house was dirty and the cat was biting her and the dog looked sick. Just everything in the world. My mom gives the world for my grandma and gets nothing in return besides talked down to. Then my mom always thinks she’s sick and when I tell her to go to the dr she tells me I’m bothering her but if I say I’ve been having bad headache she tells me to go to the dr. Then she got mad that my hubby has allergies to her house and that I don’t want the baby sleeping over, mind you they live 3 hours away. I’m not going to have my baby sleep over there while I sleep at my sister in laws house. Am I not allowed to worry about cat fur or cat litter irritating him? Am I not allowed to care for my child in the way I want? And she said she’s not going to fight me to see him cause I said I don’t want her bring my grandma over or taking him to my grandmas house and she didn’t want to respect it. My aunt texts me once a month asking how I am. I text my aunt every now and then but I work a full time 8:30-5:30 job, I go home, cook, clean, shower and by the time I’m done with that it’s 8:30 and I’m fucking ready for bed. But the thing is they don’t care. My brother is literally a god. He does nothing wrong. He doesn’t text my family updates. He doesn’t get shit on for it. He lives right near his in laws and my mom doesn’t complain. It’s just not fair I get crapped on every single day for complaining about work, saying my back hurts, being annoyed at some of the kicks. My mom hasn’t worked a job in 10 years and stays home all the time. She gets to do whatever she wants whenever she doesn’t worry about making money cause my dad does all that. And I’m the one who made a mistake moving 3 hours away, weighing 100lbs, hating myself and hating my life, to weighing 115 before pregnancy, getting engaged, working a successful salary job, a 1/1 apartment, a new 2019 car and a baby on the way, my mental health was so much better and she goes and ruins it. Jobs are stressful and she doesn’t see it or understand it because she doesn’t do it. And when I call she always mumbles hello as if she’s dying to tell me her shoulder hurts. Yesterday her back hurt. The day before she thought she had the flu. It’s just never ending. I feel so just broken by the constant drama. I don’t want drama I’m so tired of it. And that’s why I don’t want to be involved in their stuff. I’m so tired of it. The drama wears me down and affect hubby and I. He was pissed off I had been crying. And it’s just constantly something with her. I’m probably going to reach out to my aunt because I’m so sick and tired of seeming like the bad one. It’s so frustrating.

Am I in the wrong? What do I even do anymore?