arguments over race/gender/sexuality equality

I don’t know what group this should be in, but I figured you guys probably have something of value to say.

I am mixed. my boyfriend is white. he was raised conservative while I’m more liberal. he is straight. I am bisexual/pansexual.

every time we talk about something dealing with guns, he can’t see that the country (USA) has a problem. when we talk about the justice system and how as a mixed women, I am more likely to be unheard, seen as unreasonable, and overall, have less “rights” than him, he gets so upset and says that it doesn’t have anything to do with race or gender. I tell him I have been called names and been threatened, he dismisses me and doesn’t like to talk about it. I tell him I was sexually assaulted, he tells me he doesn’t want to talk about it.

today, we were naming random scenarios like, if I go to jail for blah blah blah, would you bail me out (all for fun). I said if a man tried to take advantage of me and I used self defense, would you bail me out? (again, not serious. i know how the process works. don’t take it the wrong way). he said yes and all, but then I said when it went to court, they would simply ask what I was wearing and victim shame me. of course, he said that that doesn’t happen and “actually, most people in court for self defense are white guys who shot people in self defense”. first of all, totally unrelated to what I was saying. second of all, thanks for completely avoiding what I was saying. I know it seems insignificant, but I don’t have friends. no one to really fight for who I am. I just expect him to care a little more. that’s all.

We also argue because he wants to buy assault rifles and keep them in the house “just because he wants them”. I tell him no all the time and he claims I never let him have what he wants.

I love him with all of my heart, but I can’t do this anymore. I suppress these thoughts and feelings I have about certain topics I feel strongly about just so he doesn’t get upset with ME.

someone please tell me what I should do about him

**I don’t mean to make sexual assault and rape such a light topic. like I said, I’ve been assaulted and more than once. my heart goes out to anyone in a situation like that.