i fantasize about girls during sex with my boyfriend. am i lesbian?

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i'm 22 and i've only ever dated and had romantic attraction towards men. the prospect of flirting with, dating, etc. a woman makes me uncomfortable and i dream of the day i can marry a man and have a family. however, sexually, i find i can normally only get off if i fantasize about women during it. this has been a thing since i was 17 or so. while my boyfriend gives me head, i'm fantasizing about a girl doing it. not any girl that i know in my life, but rather an anonymous girl/the idea of one. it feels taboo to me and i think that's what's turning me on. i'll pretend a girl is eating me out instead and then i'll cum, but if i don't pretend that i won't. i don't know if ive screwed myself up by watching lesbian porn most of my late teenage years or something? i'm very attracted to my boyfriend and i love being in a relationship with him (and just men in general) so i don't know what my issue is. can anyone tell me if this is normal?

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Only way to knw if u are a lesbian is too explore ofc tell ur bf what’s going on..and find out for urself if you are into women,sometimes I watched porn lesbian but I don’t fantasize about it when I’m having intimate with my man,I once tried been with a woman,trust me it was bad (tmi) the odor she has almost makes me past out,she did eat me out I came but only because I was playing with my cli not because she was eating me out I just kept thinking about dick..that’s when I realized that been with a woman is not for me is okay to fantasize it when watching porn that’s just it.

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I read somewhere it was normal for women to imagine this or fantasize about this especially if you’ve never explored because i mean you watch this porn and you know exactly what they’re feeling plus us women know our bodies best. I can’t remember where I read it though.

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It’s totally normal, it happens to me sometimes. That just means that you could be curious about exploring that side (even though you’re in a relationship) just know there’s nothing wrong with having these thoughts/images. Use that imagination! 🤗