So I’m high risk and had my first appointment with Maternal Fetal Medicine on Monday. They did an ultrasound to check the back of the neck and make sure there were no obvious defects and then did bloodwork. I told my husband about this appointment (date and time) no less than FIVE times. Including the day before.

I went alone.

I’m upset that I had to do this alone when I told him several times and he claims I told him an hour later than my appointment actually was. Even if that was true, I was still there an hour later and he was nowhere to be found. Now we’re in a huge fight because he thinks I expect him to be “perfect”. How is expecting him to show up at an important appointment he knew about in advance expecting him to be perfect? Am I being ridiculous?

I’m really upset about this whole thing. Luckily nothing was wrong but if something had been, I would’ve had no support. And I even spent months searching for an OB that would allow support people (before we started trying) because he made it clear he wanted to be at every appointment. I guess I’m just hurt that he didn’t care enough to set a reminder and show up.