I'm hanging in there and I'm coping, but I just need to talk to someone. My PTSD from being sexually abused (I've gotten therapy and things are better) but lately I've been triggered more often and it's just hard to have to remember those things.

On top of this in my marriage my husband has been telling me for more than a month that I don't do enough to show him I love him and I've been patient and trying but he's like a black hole.

Yesterday I learned he's been projecting into me and he's been feeling guilty about some stuff he's been thinking and feeling. He's come clean about some lies to me 3 times in the past 7 months.

He's not cheating but he's told me about hiding things he's thought (inappropriately) about female coworkers and he's a mailman and a woman answered the door naked and he didn't tell me and how he's attracted to our neighbor also. Or how also he almost orgasmed during a pedicure and I was right next to him. Yesterday lots of things came out and I was already having a rough time. I don't know why he keeps lying to me, it's not the stuff that's happening that's really upsetting, it's the fact that he feels the need to hide things that aren't even big deals(albeit some are hurtful and could be forms of micro cheating) that doesn't hurt me. It hurts that pretty much his whole sexual side is being spent on other women and he's not being honest with me.

What would you do?