So here's the thing my significant other and I have been together like 10 years have children together a house together basically everything. He's known I wanted to get married I have voiced to him many times and he has also said he wants to get married. Last night I said something to him asking why we are not engaged or married. Basically this light all the way up until today and he's acting extremely distant. It wouldn't let me take a screenshot of our messages so I'll just copy and paste.

Me-Can you just give me a reason why we're not engaged and I'll leave you alone about it..

Him-You're the one that's not happy you're always wishing we could hold hands or kiss or take pictures or go places together so I don't need anything you are happy I just think you settled

Me-That does not answer my question.

Yeah it would be nice to hold hands every once in awhile but I said one thing about it this weekend other than that I have probably never said anything about it before.

I don't care about taking pictures. Would it be nice to have pictures together every once in awhile of course.

These are all the things that we've done before... So it's not like I'm wanting something that we've never done..

I didn't settle. I wouldn't have sex with someone I settled with I wouldn't make them food clean up after them. I wouldn't get them gifts to show them i care.

And I damn sure would not want to marry someone that I I'm not happy with.

Me again- If you don't want to marry me I'd much rather you say it.

Me againnnnn- I hope you understand I DO love you and I'm NOT settling.... That really hurts to hear you say that and that is the reason we are not getting married.

We both have been working all day today and he continued to ignore my messages finally at 5pm

He responds after I asked if he was mad.

Him-

No I'm not mad I got a lot going on trying to go home get her dress for her baseball game been busy at work I live a busy life I don't have time to just text all day constantly I do things. Not to mention you're still stuck on something from 12 hours ago we've gone through an entire day and you're still stuck on it

Me- I understand what it's like to be busy. When I get a chance on lunch or whatever you're the first text I look for. Yes I should probably not bother you but I feel like this is very serious.

And that's where it was left off I'm still at work won't see him until tonight. I'm really struggling I feel like he is the one who doesn't want to be with me and he's deflecting how he feels and making it about me.. help...