I’m 30 weeks pregnant and sometimes I post TikToks on my Snapchat story and today I posted one that was explaining the psychological effect spanking has on children it was just scientific facts not directed toward anyone just stating how I personally want to parent my child once he’s born and my sister replied to the video and said “this is a joke🤣🤣🤣” and I said “no it’s not” and she said “It is, to a point you can pop your kids, I’m not sayin abuse them but u can whoop your kid. My mom never whooped me and I did whatever I wanted and showed my ass treating her anyway when I was younger but my dad who whooped me, I never done that shit to him.” “I stopped popping my kids for a couple weeks and they really started to show out and not listen and when they started getting whoopings again they are good again” I said “They’re your kids but don’t hit mine an I won’t hit yours, I can’t tell you how to parent” she said “you’ve hit my kids😂” “But I’m not gonna argue, I’m sure you’ll pop or hit yours at one point”

Okay so first off Ive seen her literally beat her kids with clothes hangers, chargers, shoes, belts, etc. and idc who you are your child should NOT fear you. I was 11 when she had her oldest and he’s 7 now I didn’t have the knowledge that I have now about it I was a child myself and she would tell me to hit him so I did she has another now and he’s 3 i can’t even remember the last time I touched her kids and I have definitely never hit them out of anger and they act way better for me, my mom and my grandma than they act for her. Anyways she’s trying to act like my son is going to be the worst child anyone’s ever met because I don’t plan to hit him and she thinks that just because I hit hers when I was 11 or 12 and didn’t know better that gives her the “okay” to hit mine. If you “just pop them” when they do something “wrong” then you will easily slip into a habit of just hitting when they are doing something they shouldn’t be doing instead of gently redirecting them and explaining why they shouldn’t do it and if the consequences isn’t too extreme just let them learn natural consequences.