How do you break up with someone who refuses to accept that you don’t want to be with them and immediately starts telling you how their going to end their life and it will all be your fault when you do try and leave.

I’ve been with my current bf since October 2020, and we met in July of that same year. He has a lot of mental health issues and had a rough start to life. I’ve helped him get his ID and have been encouraging him to do what he needs to to get his life on the right track.

He is a compulsive liar, extremely manipulative, very controlling, and narcissistic, not to mention bipolar, in addition to other anxiety and depression issues plus he’s has relatively high functioning autism.

He’s forced his way into living with me twice, and both times went horribly. Consistent fights, he would hard switch my pc off if he didn’t like what game I was play or who I was talking to. He would drag me out of bed in the middle of the night repeatedly, constantly waking me up and keeping me from sleeping. Not respecting my personal boundaries and my own mental health struggles. Spending my money or guilting me into spending it on him on dumb stuff.

I finally got him his own place, but had to put a lot of my own money forward for that (worth it IMO), but it took me calling the cops after he started cutting himself and throwing things around my apartment, threatening to break a $400 monitor and destroy my $1500 pc. He was doing pretty well after that as he got some of his meds adjusted and set up with some local mental health doctors.

However, he tells me all these things and stuff and I don’t know what’s true and what to believe because so much of what he tells me is lies and manipulation. I just want my life back, but he won’t let me break up with him. He threatened to send nude photos of me (which I’m not entirely sure he even has) to my boss and family.

I just, don’t know what to do. I don’t have any family close or friends really, and I’m so embarrassed by it all, that I let myself get I to this situation. Please, any advice is welcome.

TL;DR

Really toxic bf won’t let me break up with him, uses his life and my reputation as leverage. Pls help