Deal breaker?: My Inexperienced BF Sucks in Bed

Let me start by saying I love my boyfriend. He is a very attentive partner. I think he's really attractive, intelligent, funny, just a joy to be around, and we communicate really well in our daily lives. He makes me feel safe and secure and that's really important to me. However, there's a big issue at play: sex.

We got into a big fight early on because he wanted to have sex all the time and I did not. We compromised and he lets me initiate having sex and I try to initiate it like twice a week for his sake.

But ladies, it is not enjoyable!!!! I think it is lack of experience. I am not the most experienced person myself, but I've just never had this happen to me.

Literally whenever he kisses me he just kinda latches his lips onto mine. There's no movement. He just stays like that until I pull away, and he doesn't even let me pull away without a fight. If I try to make any kind of movement with my lips or head in an attempt to guide him he just leeches onto me and it makes it really difficult to enjoy making out with him. Like what the actual? When he gets on top of me and fingers me for foreplay, he just presses his entire body against mine and does the same thing when he kisses me. And just stays like that, and he kinda like makes irregular motions with his fingers for two seconds, stops, then makes the same motion. He will insert his fingers into my vagina and then leave them up there while he presses his lips onto mine. Oh and also, he is silent the entire time. He doesn't engage in dirty talk, he'll only ask me to confirm "like that?" when I have to instruct him on how to touch me. And i can orgasm, but only if I fantasize about something completely different and it takes forever. He can pound me and it will feel great, but he never even finishes and sometimes doesn't even stay hard. And he slips out a lot.

I've tried gently telling him that I want to experiment more in bed. He asked me how and I told him for starters dirty talk would be great and he told me he'd have to work up to it. But he's made no attempt to even say anything yet. I suggested rope and he was like "i guess you can tie me up" and I was like okay but can you actually finish if you're the one tied up and he was like "i don't know". And i asked if he'd rather tie me up he says the same thing "I'll have to work my way up to it" We've still never gotten the rope. He doesn't want me to take control either, i made jokes about having him trained and he freaked out on me. He hates the idea of being submissive. Like I genuinely have no clue how to make this enjoyable for either of us if he's not willing to meet me halfway.

Is he just really nervous? We've been together for four months and I've known him for nine. If he is, how am I supposed to make him feel comfortable? Is this a justifiable reason to leave? Should i just be blunt and tell him he seriously sucks in bed and see what happens? Does anyone have any similar experiences? I'm losing my damn mind I feel so bad but I am so miserable at the thought of having sex with him again.