Confused

Since we got married my husband and I have always wanted a big family. 3-4 kids would be our dream. Well we just had a baby last year and I expected him to be different than he is; He is a great dad but he is not really there and he’s never doing bathtime or helping that much he’s kind of absent and everything is on me.

Today I told him maybe we shouldn’t have anymore kids because it’s a lot on me and he kind of got upset.

I would love to have more children but he wasn’t really there during my pregnancy or now our baby is growing up and I don’t understand why he’s like this but he sees nothing wrong.

We have talked about it many times and he gets upset and says that he’s doing his best and he doesn’t see what he’s doing wrong (even though I have told him the things he could work on) he just doesn’t try to change anything.