I don’t know how to help my friend

She sounds too toxic I would not be friends anymore

Sounds like she's gotta help her self. Don't be in her line of fire. Ouch 🕯️

Send that to her the next time she wants to claim suicide, or call the cops let them deal with her at a psychiatric facility. Toxic, controlling, manipulation, you might as well be in a relationship with her like the boyfriend she abuses you too. Cut her off, you can’t grow in toxic soil, a rainbow can’t come out unless it stops raining. She’s dragging it all down.

I’m not doctor, but she sounds like she has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I only guess this bc i too have it. As I’ve gotten older it’s mellowed dramatically. But I was on medication for it. Antidepressants. They tried antipsychotics, but I hated those. Just made feel spacing, lethargic, and out of it. My case wasn’t as bad as others, but I can relate to your friend in how I use to be. She definitely seems like she needs more than just therapy. Some kind of drug to balance the chemical imbalance in her brain. If she is BPD, she needs waay better therapist than just any old therapist. Once someone is diagnosed with BPD, most Pychiatrist and therapist tend to avoid them like the plague bc they’re extremely hard patients to care for. But then there are some who specialize in BPD. It’s not easy. But BPD or not, she probably needs Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) which cognitive therapy, helps to retrains the brain. The violent outburst screams BPD me. Fun fact, BPD (or any personality disorder) is the only mental disorders that CAN be curable. Takes a lot of help from doctors tho. The reason for this is because the way personality disorders take place, is by trauma. Falls under the umbrella of PTSD. She probably needs more help than she’s getting. Problem is, it’s hard to get them to go. Whether it’s this serious of diagnosis, she needs to seek help immediately if she’s putting her hands on people. I have done it. I’m not proud of it. But it took a lot of work to get where I’m at. The question you gotta ask yourself is this something you wanna fight for? Bc it’s not gonna be easy. My BFF was the one who first called out that she thought I had BPD. I was PISSED. “ How dare her think she knows everything!” Turns out, she was right. But she stayed by me and we’ve been friends for over 15 yrs and even have the same name. Lol! It’s truly up to you if you wanna stand by her, but it won’t be an easy journey. Just know there is hope for her. 💕

Personally I couldn’t be friends with someone who physically abused their partner and I couldn’t feel bad for her 🤷‍♀️

It's none of your business or problem. You be honest with your friend, you say things that are supportive and friend like.... "This is hard for you I know l, keep going. Take this chance to change the way you treat people."Honestly it does not really sound like a friend and you sound a bit like a frienemy..... A month is not that long and therapy doesn't just change a person right away. Sometimes it might seem like they are crazy and obsessed but it's them trying to get through it. Therapy opens a person up and you have to fight through it so you think about it and talk about it. Not to be offensive you just kinda don't seem super friendly about and it seems like your talking behind her back because you know what she says to other people. If she is not saying any of this to you then I would stop. Leave her business alone and when other people bring it up don't allow the conversation to go further. It's rude. Don't gossip and be honest with her if you are her friend, if not then be done with it.