I will start off by saying that I have identified as Pansexual/bisexual since I was in my mid teens. I am completely supportive and enthusiastic for him to transition to female hormonally. At this time he still identifies as male until he can be prescribed hormonal treatment.

Obviously I have some anxieties about this huge change. If anybody has had experience with their partner transitioning (particularly male to female) I’d love your input.

My main fears:

Will he still love me the same after the hormones? I know what he feels for me isnt lust but I do worry that he’ll somehow lose feelings for me.

Will we still be able to make love? I know that oestrogen can cause loss of sex drive and less firm erections. So I guess there’s a fair chance that we won’t. And that scares me. I love sex. I love pleasing him. It’s not the same when it’s one sided and I can’t share the intimacy.

He really doesn’t want to explain himself to anybody. Which is totally fair. Why should he have to explain his gender when I don’t? But how do I help him through the frustration of the inevitable questions?

I want to be there for him. I want to support him. But I just don’t know how to.