I’m doing this with or without you!

I’ve been with my husband 8 years going to be married for 1 in august. Well we’ve always talked about having our own home and starting a family. Since covid hit he’s been laid off collecting. It’s been over a year now. All he does in his time is play video games. He will do the occasional laundry but 9/10 times he doesn’t. He’s up all hours of the night talking to his friends on the head set then cries the next day that he’s so tired and has a headache. We’ve talked quite a bit about him getting a job and taking steps to get our life in order. And when I express how I feel he just stares at me quietly or goes I know, but does nothing to better our situation. My own boss owns 3 company’s and offered him jobs and he said “I’ll think about it” and never gets back to him. He has no motivation to do anything. I’ll be 25 in November and he will be 30 on the 26th of this month. I just have this giant annoyance on my chest that I just wanna scream and cry all at the same time. He has bladder issues that effect our sex and personal life. He has a prescription but refuses to take it. Our sex life is pretty much down to 1 maybe 2 times a month if that. I work at a dog daycare that is very physically and mentally demanding. I get every other weekend off so sometimes I work 13 days in a row. But Everytime I’m out of work he’s pissed off over something and it ruins his whole day and weekend and then I have a shitty time off.

Basically talking isn’t working. Any advice? I’m at the point I’m ready to get up and leave. I know it sounds petty but how do I get him to open his damn eyes and grow up?!