? Would you leave your significant other over your in-laws

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I have a terrible relationship with my in-laws and try to be honest can’t stand them to save my life. They’re constantly criticizing my parenting they constantly make comments about my daughter acting like I don’t know how to parent and honestly today I think I’ve just had it and I really just can’t deal with them anymore. It’s gotten to the point where I I will drop him and my daughter off to see them and I’ll go with my parents because I just can’t stand to be around them. I know it’s not his fault and it’s out of his control but that’s obviously his parents and I would never ask him to not have a relationship with them so I’m really conflicted because this isn’t what I’m gonna do for the rest of my life I’m not going to put up with that

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It’s not out of his control either he puts them in check or you do. 
If it was this much hostility they wouldn’t be around my kid and they would have gotten cussed out a long time ago.
Tell your husband exactly what it is and go from there if he doesn’t fix it then do what you feel is best

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I would only consider divorcing someone because of their parents if they always took the side of their parents and couldn’t see where I was coming from.

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If he puts them in check and have boundaries, no.
If he allows them to run all over our family, yes. 
Nothing is out of his control, he is a grown man and can say no and limit contact with his parents if they stomp on boundaries.

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Maybe speak with them directly and let them know that they need to respect you and make sure he’s on the same page.

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If he doesn't stand up for you or defend you then yess 100%

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I have a lot of experience for this and for ten years I accepted disrespect simply because of what you said right there...but those are his parents
You might as well save your time she's going to continue to do this to you and until you demand respect she's never going to give it to you freely at the end of the day you owe that woman not a goddamn thing and you do not have to take disrespect just to please your husband because he is unable to stand his ground with his mother I would honestly give him one good cell this morning either you put her in her place or I will in the meantime I wish you good luck with so I can tell you right now she's not going to just ever stop disrespecting you and she will accept expect her son to take her side no matter how she treats you if I were you I would be more concerned on whether your husband's going to allow that

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Have hubby speak up for you, geez that's fucked up.

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I almost did. But it was a very very hostile situation. It got worse pretty quick and my partner started to see just how fuckin insane it all was and he left with me (we lived with them for whatever reason). That was 10 or so years ago and he’s since cut off all contact with his mother and has limited contact with everyone else. All his choice. He spoke up for me every time they spoke bad of me, though. He made them aware from the beginning that he wouldn’t tolerate that crap and he stuck by that.

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He needs to have your back and stand up for you. He is responsible for how he deals with this situation.

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I would just choose not to deal with them. If he can deal with that, I would be good.

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