Husband chose to jerk off instead of having sex

Let me first get this out of the way, I have no problems at all with my husband masturbating!

Okay, so here’s the scenario:

I had a inch to go to with a couple friends yesterday. My husband asked if I wanted to have sex. I said I would love to when I get home or later in the evening as I was already running late. He was excited and said he would look forward to it.

That evening, right before bed, I got on his lap and tried to kiss him. He just said “shutting it down. Not tonight.”

I was disappointed, but he had a big day at work the next day, so I didn’t say anything.

The next day he told me her jerked off right after I went to bed as if it were a joke.

I didn’t want to turn it into an argument, so I laughed and moved on.

I can’t help but be upset that he shut me down but jerked off.

Should I bother bringing it up or talking about it? Or just let it be?

Update: I never expected him to have sex and I’d never force him or make him bad for saying no. I was just confused because we talked earlier in the day about having sex later.

Update regarding Wendy’s comment: I went to a restaurant with a friend for lunch. We sat on the patio. I don’t smoke, nor was I around anyone who was smoking. I didn’t go to a bar for lunch.