Should I be hurt?

It’s my husbands and I 4 yr wedding anniversary coming up and he asked if it was okay for our 4 friends to come up the weekend of our anniversary despite me having a whole thing planned for months which he apparently forgot about. PLUS he took the whole week off before our anniversary to go on a dirt biking trip with his friends, even though I’ve been asking to go on vacation with him alone to help us reconnect... but he planned that first and now we don’t know when we can even go away together or with our baby in general,

Anyways - It hurt my feelings that he didn’t think on his own to tell them no. I’ve told my him 3 times in the last 3-4months that I have a surprise planned in the backyard that we will do once our baby goes to sleep and how I think he will really appreciate it. In college we took badminton together, then would go to a sandwich shop after and hang out for the rest of the day. So I bought a legit badminton set, then a picnic basket with sandwiches and the desserts we shared only with each other at our wedding. He doesn’t know the details obviously, but we haven’t been in a good place and this is supposed to be my gesture of showing him that I love him and want to get us back to what we were at our wedding and in college.

Backstory: we haven’t been really connected because we’ve had a lot going on and because of that, we kinda got use to taking care of ourselves if that makes sense?

I actually got to the point where I didn’t know if I was IN love with him anymore because since we have had our baby, 15months ago, I’ve been the only one to get up every night, to give baths- to ask my husband was like pulling teeth. When we would get up in the middle of the night, he’d always put the baby down too early and not listen to how I do it, then the baby would wake up and my husband would start getting pissed so I’d end up putting the baby back down. Plus since he works, he said he’d only get up on weekends to help with the middle of the nights cries 🙄 . Anytime I needed help with the baby I had to ask, and most of the time I just did it by myself because my husband would get frustrated and I didn’t want to deal with it. He always does these 4hr things in the garage on the weekends so I’m still taking care of the baby, he would go out twice a month to do his hobbies, which are all weekend long or all day things so I again would be stuck with the baby alone. He refused to take the baby alone anywhere and just recently started to take him to his baby classes, he refused to go to restaurants with the baby until he was about 8months old. It just felt like since I had our baby, my husband didn’t want to hang out with me anymore because it meant bringing the baby and he didn’t want to deal with that because he thought it would “double the time of errands/be too difficult”. It got to the point where he lived his life and I was just at home waiting with our baby, all by myself, all the time and I resented him for it cause being a SAHM is exhausting too!

He thinks about himself first a lot and it’s been something he is working on, but with him asking me last night if it was okay if his friends come for the weekend, just made me feel like things may not ever change. And I found out while we had friends over this weekend, that he hasn’t even bought me my present, which we both picked out together 3weeks ago so I’m not gonna have anything for a while which just sucks cause it always feels like I’m an after thought.

Am I over reacting or over thinking?