Thoughts: 6 Months pp, ttc?

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Hello all, 
I am 6 months pp with our first baby, and am sooo tempted to start trying for baby number 2. Backstory: it took my husband and I about 3 years to conceive our first child - I had endometriosis and ovarian cysts but it took us a long time to figure that out and get it all removed. Thankfully, the pregnancy with our first was easy, and we had no complications once we were able to conceive. But now, I just feel so far behind on our little family from where I thought we would be (we're hoping for ~4 kiddos). I'm also petrified that it will take us years to conceive baby number 2 and if we wait a year + before we try again, that will just set us back further in our baby journey. All of this is why I am so tempted to start for number 2 already and "catch up" to where I'd hope we be. Any thoughts/tips/warnings on having babies so close together? I keep weighing pros and cons, but I'm so torn. My heart and gut want to start trying, but my head thinks it is too soon. 😬 Decisions, decisions..

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I would talk to your doctor.
It takes 18 months for your body to fully heal after giving birth, and it’s recommended to not try sooner than 12 months postpartum.

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It is HIGHLY recommended that a woman waits 18m at minimum to conceive again after birth. The ACOG even recommends it. Too many complications can arise otherwise. You body needs to heal. And just cause it took that long to conceive with the first doesn’t mean it will with the 2nd. I have endometriosis also and it took about the same time for me BUT that was under 1yr which is the most average for anyone else also.

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Having 2 babies that close is not good for your body… you’re supposed to wait at least a year… also you miss out on so much with baby #1 when you’re tending to the newborn… your judgement sounds clouded and unrealistic at this time… there is no rush here… you seem more focused on the number in your head rather than enjoying your child you have …. I understand wanting more but 6 mo pp is insane

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Some of these comments seem intended to scare. 
I got pregnant 4 months PP and then 3 months PP. I’ve had 3 pregnancies in 3 years. My body is fine, my kids are healthy, and each pregnancy has gone well. I’m at no higher risk for complications because I’ve had my kids close in age. 
You need to discuss it with your doctor to make sure there aren’t any particular risks for you personally, but having kids close in age is MY preference. 🤷🏻‍♀️ All the statistics are based on averages. Your doctor knows your medical history best.

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It's up to you I know with endo, sometimes the scare tissue will grow back over time and girls have to get another surgery to start trying again. Me personally, I would wait a year and then start trying. I waited a year and got pregnant the first month of trying. My first was hard to conceive but the second was quick.

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I’ve heard of a lot of women who took a long time to conceive the first one and then BAM, the second one ain’t no thang. I can totally understand you being nervous, though. Drs usually recommend 18 months to give your body time to heal. That doesn’t mean that you can’t have a healthy pregnancy before that, but it would likely be considered high risk. I would suggest talking to your dr about your concerns and see what they say. At the end it’s up to you, but I think it’s important to be well informed of the pros and cons. Especially because now it will impact your current child too.

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I know there are added health risks to both you and baby, but if I were in your shoes, I would probably start trying.

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Girl you do what suits you and your family! My two eldest kida are 8 and 10. I now have a four month old and when he is 6 months we are going to talk about whether we want more or not. My older two are to my ex husband so my husband only has the one and I would live to give him more and I want my babies all close in age. I wanted straight away the reason we are waiting is to watch our for autism which I spotted in my eldest daughter when she was 5 months old. Around 6 months you will have some idea if your child may have autism. They regress in speech. They regress in everything. Don’t respond to facials expressions Don’t respond to their name.... Didn’t everrrrr sleep and didn’t ever eattttt from birth! So for me this is the only reason I am not already onto baby bumber two. And also, almost every pregnancy I have had twins... which increases the risk of one having autism. I have a bicornuate uterus which is why my body struggles to hold two. I am dying to have mor children! 
This decision is for you and your husband honey! If it’s what you want go for it!!

Thoughts: 6 Months pp, ttc?

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