Grandparents forcing affection!!!!

I'm having major conflict with my parents about how they force physical contact with my 2 year old. They don't see her very often so she likes to interact with some distance with them. She cries or is uncomfortable when grandmother or grandpa take her in the arms or kiss. They blame me for encouraging this behavior and by not visiting often, while visiting us is excused with many different reasons. My mom says most of the time she has no energy to play with a toddler. Which is ok but still complains. So pretty much she prefers my toddler to be like a lap cat to cuddle and kiss without any other interaction. I was telling her how she should approach my LO without grabbing her, she lost it on me and said their the grandparents and my child only approaches them when she wants something to eat for her benefit and it shouldn't be so difficult while I'm making a major problem about it. And so my mom is said my 2 yr old is an opportunist and I shouldn't blame them for her being estranged from them. My parents feel that because they are the grandparents, my toddler should be affectionate, more interactive with them and show that she loves them. I'm just not sure I can get through to them that they need to do more than hug and kiss her to build a relationship. Or is there another way to approach this, am I perhaps wrong? I'm not sure.

my LO is very affectionate to those she sees more often (my husband's side) who take time to interact, play with her. We encourage hugs and kisses but when she doesn't want to, we don't force it. Sometimes my father grabs her, she cries for me and there have been times where I tried to tell her "it's only grandpa, he loves you"