If you have kids do you ever miss being able to focus on yourself?

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Asked with lots of love, whatever you choose is the right path for you. I’m mid 20s and don’t have any kids and some of my friends have made comments about wow I would never have time to do that, or life must be so cheap for you, and just stuff like that. My mom has also thrown in some comments

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No, never. I had my kids at 23, 24, and 26. But I was already married and both my husband and I are big homebodies. We didn't go out to do anything or party even before the kids. I don't like to drink. So life isn't really much different for us with kids vs without kids. The ONLY thing I have missed is smoking weed, tbh. I was never one of those people who smoked during pregnancy or breastfeeding so I do miss that sometimes. I tried smoking it once after I weaned my youngest and my kids were all asleep, but I was so tired the next day. So I do miss smoking weed, but it that is the only thing I do miss about not having kids and I'd much rather have my sons than smoke weed 😅

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Yes, I absolutely do!!! My son will be 13 in a few months & I of course love him pieces, but there ARE times when I miss my life prior to having a child & being able to focus more on myself.... And, it’s completely normal & natural to feel that way at times!! There’s nothing wrong with missing a former part of ur life, as long as it doesn’t interfere with ur current life/responsibilities.

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Absolutely 💯!!!!
I'm 24 years old and I'm just starting my career. I got pregnant during the pandemic (unplanned pregnancy) and I miss so many things. I miss my pre-preganancy body, partying, drinking, smoking weed, going out clubbing with my friends, salon dates, dropping everything to go to Toronto one weekend, girlfriend dates ughhhhh. I miss my old life BUT I am massively in love with my son. He's 8 months old and I wouldn't change it for the world. I may miss my old self and I am allowed to miss her, but I'm also excited to try new adventures with my little one. Just because I have a kid it doesn't mean my life stops. I just need to adjust it now and evolve 😊

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I dont have kids and I very much enjoy being able to take impulsive weekend trips out of town or sleeping in or just doing absolutely nothing lol I dont want children. I know for a fact that I would be devastated if I ended up pregnant and would most likely abort

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No. She’s about to start school n I still want to be w her every second. I’m going to cry while she’s excited

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Every day.

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I miss being able to drop everything coz a friend has a spare concert ticket or something, i miss girls holidays too. I have to plan nights out weeks/months in advance now coz of babysitting issues. Theres a local festival happening this weekend and there’s loads of bands and live acts on in local pubs connected to the festival, i used to go every year and now I can’t do that. I miss working behind bars too. Now i have to work during school hours.

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Yes sometimes, I used to do a lot of artsy hobbies that are kind of time consuming, so I don’t do much of that now except around Christmas time for gifts and things. But I feel like I’ll have more time for that as my kids get older

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I love being a mum and on the few occasions I have has an hour to myself I miss him, people have asked tobhave him but I don't need or want to be without him. 
I do sometimes miss thinking I'm JUST painting my nails or JUST dying my hair... things like that need to be done once they are in bed,l.
I still find time to myself or to just be me and not mum but it's just less than before. 
I wouldn't have it another way.

If you have kids do you ever miss being able to focus on yourself?

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