Weird first OBGYN appointment

So, I (19F) and went to my first OBGYN appointment today. I have weird lumps in my breasts that I need to get check out, but that’s not what was weird. When the doctor came in, she did the breast exam, and then asked about my sexual history. When I told her I’d never had straight penetrative sex (partly because of mental health, partly because of sexual orientation,) she got this sort of shocked, peeved look on her face and started throwing the STI tests (which I requested) and paperwork away and told her assistant that they didn’t need to do any of that. Then she looked at me and said that she’d do a visual examination but nothing else unless I was “dying to”, which I guess I wasn’t, but I felt nervous to say that I kind of still wanted them. I’d gone to get the examinations despite my lack of sexual history out of an abundance of caution and some weird abnormalities in my childhood and minor family history that the office never asked me about (but the hypochondriac in me wonders about.)

When I mentioned that I was self conscious about how I look down there, she brushed me off with a comment about that being “how God made you.” Then, during the visual exam, she scoffed and made a rather callous remark that “yeah, her hymen is still intact.” While I’m not a medical professional by any means, I’m pretty sure that’s not true, and it definitely doesn’t mean or have the weight in what she was saying it in reference to (my sexual activity.)

I’ve been sexually active in other ways (including a couple rather iffy health-wise experiences where I could’ve been injured or picked up something), despite never having penetrative sex with a penis. This, combined with my family’s history of minor issues, my past experiences, and my general lack of knowledge about what may be going on down there is why I went for the exam. I feel brushed off. Have I done something wrong? Am I in the wrong here for going for this exam despite never having straight penetrative sex, and/or for thinking I wasn’t given the treatment I requested?