So I just told my husband today before I went into work that I’d like him to be vocal and dominant in the bedroom and me to be submissive sometimes. I guess I’ve been exploring my own interest for a while and from what I’ve gathered, I think I’m a switch. Sometimes I like to dominate, sometimes I like to be submissive. Interested in being the “prey” but my nature is more bratty. I’m still figuring this out. I’m new. So what I basically ended up doing is explaining some things that I’d like to try in the bedroom. My husband was curious but open. He told me I didn’t need to be shy about it. I was very shy because 1) we are newly married and tho we have had sex prior to marriage, I had only showed him 15% of what I actually am. Every “wild”thing we did from trips to the sex shop for toys to role-play and spankings to having sex in an empty university classroom in the window nook was my idea. He has never initiated that sort of thing but has been up for engaging in it. He is very much focused on just the actual sex part. For this reason (and others) I thought he would NOT be interested. I have not told him just how far I’d like to go with all this. Even today I didn’t outright say the word Dom or sub. But he caught in and asked if that’s what I was describing and I said yes and it opened me up to discuss more in depth. Anyway, how am I supposed to go about this the right way? And did anyone else feel shy being forth coming about what they are really into with their partner? I feel like there must be a video or book out there to educate us on how to do things safely, aftercare and what not. We have already planned to have some intimate time this weekend to get to know each other’s bodies better and discuss likes, dislikes, interests etc. [I know it sounds late in the game but we are newly married and did withhold from sex for a year b4 marriage so it’s been a minute] I am open for any and all pointers from the community that has experience with this. Please be kind, I am still exploring so I’m green to lots of things.