PPA ? Sharing baby pictures

Question

So I had a traumatice birth experience and I am aware that I’m overprotective of my baby. In the sense that when it comes to pictures I don’t want to post her online or send/share pics of my baby even to family members. The idea of them owning her pictures makes me feel weird. I also think I have some PPA. Many ppl have criticized me for my choice and my husbands family doesn’t understand and they get Butthurt. I know he’s closer to his family than I am so for me it’s not a big deal but I don’t want to disappoint him or him to resent me for not wanting to share pics of our daughter. He now says he understands and is ok with it. He shared my daughters picture in which she very first smiled at us with his mom and I exploded into tears. Am I crazy? He now asks me before sending pictures to his mom or when his mom asks for pics he makes sure I’m ok with it. I don’t want to tell him what to do but I get this terrible unwanted feeling when we do send pics. His family also asks for them (in my opinion) like they have a right to them or we owe them pics. I’m so torn. I’ve been looking for a therapist because I know I need help but what advice can you give me? Am I going too far? Am I selfish? I just want to enjoy our baby she means so much to me but I don’t want to cause issues or beat myself up for it but it’s what eases my mind. Im so torn on what to do or how to go about this.

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Definitely pursue counseling. It is normal to not want to share photos of your baby, like posting online or family posting pictures online where strangers can see them. But to burst into tears because your husband shared a photo with his mom is extreme. I'm so glad your husband is being understanding through this with you. He may need to join you in counseling so he can also understand why this causes you such extreme anxiety and you guys can work through this together

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I think u need therapy for sure. 
Its fine not to share eith friends or post online, we didnt post any online until after first birthday but they act entitled to pictures because shes family and want to enjoy her as well. Its definitely over reacting.

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Yeah you’re definitely overreacting and need to see somebody about the things you’re feeling. You also need to realize that this is his kid too. And it was his mom, not some random person neither of you know

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It sounds like you are definitely experiencing a clinical level of anxiety. The nasty thing about anxiety is that it can be irrational, you can know it is irrational, and you still feel it just as strongly. Don't rule out medication if your symptoms do not improve with therapy, but also remember that what you are experiencing is common, even if it is not what is generally considered typical. PP emotions are probably the closest the average woman comes to losing grip on themselves or former selves. Ah, the joys of being a woman...

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I'm sorry, this is hard.  I went through it with my first daughter, also a traumatic birth and first few months.  I didn't want visitors- she was to fragile and they took my time that could have been with her.  I didn't want anyone that wasn't myself or my husband taking her photo.  It felt like an invasion or an exploitation.  I should have gone to therapy at the time but I didn't recognize it the way you are.  But it did get better.  It slowly became easier for me to share her with the people who also loved her.  Sharing her pictures didn't bring her any harm, just happiness to our family.  Even knowing that it took me a long time to become comfortable with it.

PPA ? Sharing baby pictures

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