My partner and I have been having what feels like a dry patch. We do okay but things are just getting dull. We always do the same thing and I’m just looking for something to make it more exciting. I’ve watched some videos but they all result in sex which is not where my partner and I are yet. It usually starts with some light kissing which turns into making out. He’ll give me hickeys and he’s very good with his hands, massaging and caressing and what not, and he’s very good with oral things too but he’s never given me oral sex before. We’ve never even done fingering before. Usually we just stick to basic things with lots of touching. I’ll give him a blowjob and he’ll have an orgasm. We might make out some more depending on how we feel, and then that’s it. The location has varied from being at either one of our houses to even being in a publicly place but finding a private area and away from people. I mentioned to him that I wanted to try some new things but I have no idea what to do and he told me if I tell him what I want we’ll do it. But like I said, I have no idea what I want bc usually I don’t do a lot of sexual things, but I’ve been wanting to. And as time goes on the urges just get stronger and they’re more often. Sometimes I have to do things for myself throughout the week just to relive the tension that builds up. I’ve had some not-so-good past experiences with sexual things so he’s very understanding of the fact that I’m hesitant to want him to do things but I don’t want him to get comfortable with it just being the way it is all the time where he gets the most pleasure. I’ve got a lot of anxieties with communicating and being open and expressive and and I’m a little hesitant and cautious bc of all the things that could go wrong or that we could mess up. He’d be my first for a lot of things and he understands that and I want him to be but I’m not sure how to go about things. I’ve never even had sex before, though I am on the pill, so of course we’d want to do other things first before getting to that point, and we’ve both looked up extensively all the safest and best and most pleasurable ways to do things moving forward so that it’s comfortable and more pleasure than pain, but I don’t know how start doing those things. Especially being a worrisome person. I’m worried about if there’ll be blood, how bad it would hurt, i know everyone reacts differently and every experience is different but I want mine to be good. And I feel like I’m ready do a little bit more now, but I don’t have that much experience. The first blowjob I ever gave was to him and he doesn’t push me into doing anything. But I’ve got kinks and things and I’m sure he does too but he maybe doesn’t wanna tell me bc maybe he’s content with how things are and sometimes having those type of talks are uncomfortable to have. But I’m more of a submissive type of partner, I like to challenge my authority but I like for the dominant partner, or in my case my partner, to have a dominant and kind or aggressive role. A little light bdsm, choking, dirty talk and things like that, nothing too extreme but at the same time a little extreme, but considering my lack of experience I don’t know what those things would entail. And I have trouble communicating that bc of my own insecurities and whatnot. I’m honestly just looking for some help and insight. I guess when I mentioned new things I kinda just thought he’d have some things in mind bc he’s got a little more experience in this area than I do, but I do appreciate his want to make me happy and comfortable and to be inclusive and attentive to what I want. If anyone has any advice it would be so greatly appreciated. I apologize for the long post and I apologize if any of it makes anyone uncomfortable. And thank you in advance to anyone who helps.