Have a 2 year old and a baby on the way with my boyfriend. We do NOT live together and have been together for 3 years (got pregnant 3 months after we met). We see each other 0-2 times a week (occasionally skip a week if we’re both busy). We were talking about moving in when I found out I was pregnant with another but then some shady things started bothering me and I haven’t wanted to now and he hasn’t brought it up again.

First it was that I found out he had been on dating sites while my son was playing on his tablet. It was only twice 3 months apart but why at all? He claimed it was because he kept getting emails from them with matches despite having an inactive profile and was logging on to figure out how to stop that. (*edit - I still get suggested matches in my email from Christian mingle and POF despite deactivated profiles so it was definitely plausible sounding). He said the accounts were created years ago and he deactivated when we started dating. We did meet on a dating site. I accepted it because he’s never given me a reason not to trust him. And I left it at that and would have if not for new events.

He started getting really active on snap. Mostly just little things like posting his workouts. He then started posting other stuff like that he got a dog, which is actually his sister’s. Then one day he posted that he was a business owner. I asked him about it and he asked me a different question in return. When I pushed, he said it was a joke. That was 2 months ago.

After that, he completely stopped using snap. Like he didn’t realize I was active on it (I never looked at his stories but could see what they were from the preview icon) and then stopped using it once I was. His snap score hasn’t gone up so it’s not that he’s hidden me from his stories, he’s just stopped using it entirely.

The other day he was complaining about getting a parking ticket. He left it on his table. When I looked at it, it had a different plate # and make than his car. Later, when I walked by, he had it flipped over the other way. I asked him about it and he claims that he thinks they put it on the wrong vehicle because there was more than one parked there…but why would you keep it then?

So then I google his name because things are just feeling too shady. And he DID start an LLC two months ago and it was in the works a whole month before that! He’s not working anywhere formally, he’s collecting unemployment.

His biggest upset about my being pregnant again was child support (we’re unmarried and I am getting Medicaid right now so my county forces child support) which makes me think he’s trying to hide money from me so he doesn’t have to pay child support.

At the same time though, he was dead set against an abortion when I brought it up as an option because I really didn’t want another in the situation we’re in. I basically single parent because we almost never see him so there’s no physic support, we rarely talk so there’s no emotional support, and the only financial support he provides is child support.

I have no idea where to go from here. Every time I try to discuss anything with him he makes it out like I’m crazy, nosy, and don’t trust him, so it feels pointless to even discuss anything with him. But how much more can I possibly ignore and not just be ignorant and stupid?