He lovelies. I hate posting on here but I don’t post on my local sites because I don’t want people to know who know us. I’ve been married to my husband 2 years this month, together for 5. When we first got together he left his ex of 10 years with 2 kids and got with me not to long after. (We weren’t seeing each other when they were together) I met him at work he was my manager. He was 29 I was 19, I really liked him and felt special and wanted. I was a size uk 8, I was an adventurous girl liked to go out and enjoy myself. He always made horrible comments about his ex. Saying she was fat and never made an effort. Said he was to good for her. She was punching bla bla. After 3 years together we had our little boy and I managed to loose most of my weight after him from going gym for 3 hours a day most days. but then I was really poorly and struggled going gym or loosing weight. I was diagnosed with endometriosis and have problems with my bladder so most days If I’m not working I’m in a lot of pain and look 6 months pregnant. Since I have put in weight and gone to a size uk 12, my husband makes so many comments that I make no effort or I’ve put weight on. He thinks he is funny by saying I used to be fit or I used to be skinny. He made a joke tonight after having my nose pierced that I look like a big fat butch woman. It’s all the time jokes every day involving my weight. Looks at other girls on the tv and says how fit they are. Our little boy is type on diabetic so I spend all my time when I’m not working sorting his medical needs out, hospital appointments, talking to nurses. I don’t have time for Myself. Not only that the way he makes me feel is like I don’t want to look good for him why should I? He says I should want to loose weight and look good for him. I want to for myself nobody else. I hate my body I hate how I’m fat now. I have just been to occupied with my son or to poorly myself to go to the gym to work out. Why doesn’t he love me the way I am? We literally hardly have sex. 9/10 we argue. He thinks I can’t take a joke. We always argue over money. I ask permission to buy something for the house he says no. Something we need he says no. It’s like living with a dad sometimes aswell. I wanted a new under sink cupboard that was mega cheap he says no. I need a new bikini to take our son to swimming lessons as my one doesn’t fit he says no. I earn my money I work so much. But I feel like I have to ask permission to spend it. Is this normal? Am I just being stupid and over thinking? Can’t I take a joke?