I’m a stay at home mom (occasionally working weekends) and I’m falling out of love with my husband.

He has a drinking problem that he denies. I’m not physically attracted to him because he won’t diet or exercise. He has very poor oral hygiene and dental issues that he will not return to the dentist to get resolved. He won’t trim his mustache so hair is literally growing into his mouth. He has no manner. He leaves his chewing gum, used contacts, empty beer cans and garbage all over the house. He’s addicted to his phone. Worst of all - he is RUDE and dismissive towards me.

I tell him my big issues like not being clean or throwing away his chewing gum, but he disregards my comments.

I try my best. The house is spotless, the garden is kept. I cook from scratch. I’m a good host to his friends. I put myself together nice. But I’m done with it.

I can’t continue to fake being in love with him. I always looked past his appearance, not wanting to be shallow, but damn there would be so much more I could look past if I was attracted to him. He is SO attracted to me and always wants to touch me but now I’m starting to physically cringe when he touches me.

He thinks he’s “the man” because he has a hot wife but I am over it. We been together for 13 years and I can’t see myself here for another year.

I have no money to move out. He has us both in debt. He spends all of his paycheck so it’s impossible to save.

I. Don’t. Know. What. To. Do.

I feel stuck, hopeless, and like I’m wasting my life in a marriage that I’m not happy in.

Thanks for listening.