Feeling behind

So my baby is 9 1/2 months and we're still cosleeping, he wakes up every 2 hrs to eat (EBF) , he can't fall asleep without nursing AT ALL qnd sometimes not without me also walking around with him, won't take a bottle at all still and has to be clung to me 24/7. We've tried sleep training several different methods but he just cries for 45 mins+ with no stopping no matter how tired he is. I'm finding it really difficult to get him on any sort of schedule and I have no time to myself to recharge because he wants to be held constantly. I'm feeling very overwhelmed and very much like a failure right now. Everyone keeps asking me why he's so clingy and I spoiled him etc. Any words of encouragement or anyone that had a similar baby please tell me this gets better 🥺