Okay I posted a few days ago about advice for getting my husband on board with transferring care to a midwife at a birthing center rather than at the hospital.

We had our appointment for “meet & greet” at the birthing center today and it went well.

My sweet husband understands and respects my perspective and desires for wanting to deliver in a calmer atmosphere where there aren’t so many covid restrictions.

But his whole heart is focused on 2 things: keeping me happy & keeping me healthy. And he feels so strongly that keeping me happy is at the birthing center but keeping me healthy is at the hospital and is really struggling with it. He knows that there’s even a 0.0001% a life threatening emergency could happen and being at the hospital to start could save my life or baby’s life and he can’t not fight for that.

But I feel so strongly about those first moments after birth and those first 24 hours of calm with our baby. My first delivery in a hospital was exhausting and emotionally traumatic with all the different nurses’ opinions and check ups and random thoughts and concerns that really stressed me out.

I desperately want to deliver our baby girl, snuggle her and get to work on latching for successful breastfeeding (my first struggled and we didn’t have the help we needed from the hospital staff, they made it worse).

I don’t want to ignore my husband’s desire to make sure we’re in a place that has LITERALLY any resource we’d need in case of an emergency, but the chances are so low of an emergency happening and we’d only be 5 minutes from the hospital and my desire is to start off my relationship with my daughter in a much less stressful environment and get home as soon as possible.

Does anyone have any advice or input as to what you might do here? I’m so torn. I respect my husband so much and he cares SO much for our family so I know he’s not being selfish and insensitive. We both have such strong and valid feelings about this and I’m just at a loss of how to move forward