Hey girls this is kind of a long story so I’ll cut to the point

I am 23, I have two kids from a previous relationship, ages 3 an 11 months old.

I’ve been with my “boyfriend” for 6 months. He always thought I was a great mother and he had no kids and he wanted me to have his kids. He moved into my apartment and we started trying for a baby.

I got pregnant quickly. About a week after I found out I was pregnant he got weird. He said he was having a hard time adjusting to this new life living with kids and he wasn’t sure he was ready. He told me he was going to stay and get used to it.

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A week later he moved out, told me he wanted to work on things eventually but he needed to get his mental health on track all this bullshit, he told me he is going to be here for me and the new baby and he promised he would help out with my older kids as much as he can.

It was my mistake. We had only been together 6 months I should have waited. I fucked up.

I was heart broken. This baby was one hundred percent planned and his idea. I don’t have many friends to talk to and I was angry and bitter so I started up my tinder account again. I scrolled and scrolled and liked every guy. I match up with one and he messages me. We talked for two days and decided to meet up. I wasnt looking for anything serious. We ended up having sex in his car (protected). At this point I am 7 week pregnant.

We talk the next day- honestly for me I just wanted someone to immediately take my mind off my ex boyfriend. But this guy seems genuinely interested in me. Like he asks me questions about my life, and I told him about my kids (not the unborn one) and he thinks it’s cool. He wanted to hangout again so he came to my apartment (when my kids were sleeping) and we had amazing sex again and he stayed and we just talked all night.

So now fast forward I am currently 11 weeks pregnant, and we talk and hangout all the time. He doesn’t know I’m pregnant. We text all day and hangout 3 times a week. He is going back to school this week and I will only see him weekends for the most part (hour and a half away) He was just supposed to be a booty call to me but I am falling for him. I originally just wanted sex and that’s it but he cares about me meanwhile my “boyfriend” who said he would eventually get back together with me barely speaks to me.

I am afraid to tell my new boyfriend that I am pregnant with another guys baby. And I know very soon it will be obvious. Honestly we have such a connection even tho it hasn’t been long I wonder if he will stay with me. I don’t know- should I tell him and hope he stays? Should I just stop talking to him now before I fall even deeper? What would you do?

I wanted to add this because people are saying I am not thinking of my kids. This guy is really a nice guy. He’s a little younger than me, he’s 21. He’s in college right now and almost done, and he told me I should go to school too, and even offered to help me enroll and do all that. He is going to help me fill out an application for college the next time I see him. I really don’t need help, but I think it’s sweet he wants to help. I always wanted to go to college and none of the other guys I’ve ever been with have been so encouraging of me. He’s a really sweet guy he’s not a dirt bag at all. He is actually probably too good for me 😢. But he’s really the best guy to ever bring around my kids- not that I have- but if I did introduce them he would be a positive roll model to them. Like maybe, and this is a huge MAYBE, if he stays with me, he will graduate and get a good job, and I can go to school and get a good job, and we can pay for my kids college, like what his parents did for him. So I am definitely thinking of my kids!!!!

He comes from a really really good background, like his parents paid for his school, and his car, they go on really nice vacations, no, I am not using him for money, but it’s not like he is going to be trying to take money from me like all my ex’s did, sometimes I feel like my last ex just wanted a place to live, like this new guy has a caring family, so I know he will be caring too, you know what I mean? Like he won’t ask me or use me for money. I just know he can help me and my kids have a better life. Even if it doesn’t work out for me, going forward I am only going to date guys that encourage me to go to school and stuff like that, I think that is the best guy for me and my kids. I am definitely thinking of them and I will find them the best positive roll model I can!

Also - people are calling me out because he comes to my apartment. He hasn’t met my kids, we just can’t go to his house because he lives with his parents when he’s home from school

THIS IS FOR JAVEE- I wanted to address your comment but I want to stay anonymous because I like to comment a lot of this app but I don’t want people to know who I am because they may judge me. You are literally my favorite person on glow and I love everything you say, you should like write a self help blog or something lol bc you give the best advice, but anyway, you called me a hot mess, which is true, I really am, I have been for a while, I barely graduated high school, moved in with my first baby daddy, I should have gone to school or something but I didn’t and we had kids, and broke up, I feel like this new guy will help me get on track, and help me be a better person. I don’t want to be a hot mess anymore, I want to be a better mom to my kids. And also,

You said me and this guy have two different lives, which is totally accurate but I would love to have his life. Maybe I really am not falling for him, maybe just the hope he can get me on track like my other ex’s didn’t really care. Maybe I need some better friends in my life . Ok now I am just rambling lol