So I’ve been noticing that as much as I advocate for defying social standards and traditional gender roles as well as intersectional feminism, I find that Im still attracted to certain things stwhen it comes to who and what I’m attracted to.

As a cis gender woman as well as someone who considers themselves to be sexually fluid I find that I am primarily attracted to men. And regardless of my knowledge and what I advocate for I also find that I am attracted to stereotypical “masculine” behavior. I met a really nice guy who treats me nicely and although he’s not the most attractive to my own personal standards I still find him intriguing in a sense. However I find myself kind of wishing he’d be a little more dismissive or hurtful towards me!

Isn’t that terrible. I want him to make me work for it in a way. I want him to be more “manly” whatever that means towards me. I want to be dominated and told what to do. Isn’t that terrible? I hate that I want a guy to fit the standard in some ways but deviate in other ways…

I just wanted to share this here and open the discussion on this because I think there’s a lot of women out there like me who advocate for a more progressive world but in our personal lives it might seem otherwise, more specifically when it comes to the partners we choose.