So here’s a very controversial debate happening in my house right now!

My husband and I got married 4 years ago. At the time my best friend and her boyfriend were very well-off. Both were doing amazing in their careers and we were very close. They gave us $400 as a wedding gift! (Absolutely insane I know, and I reached out to her after the wedding to make sure they didn’t give us too much by mistake!)

Now her wedding is in 2 weeks. My husband and I have partially lost our business since the beginning of covid and are slowing trying to rebuild it, we had a baby, just bought a new house with a higher monthly mortgage, and finances are not the best. My friend and I definitely aren’t as close as we used to be either.

My husband is insisting we give them $400 as a gift because that’s what they gave us.

I feel like we don’t have that in our budget right now and that $200 would be more than enough considering our financial situation right now and that we’re in a very different position now than they were 4 years ago.

He says it’s the “honourable” thing to do.

What does everyone think?

Should you give the same amount that someone gave you for their wedding as a gift?