My mother and I have had a strained relationship , she has caused a lot of unnecessary drama in our lives and everything is very much about her and her feelings. Long story short my husband and I have a 1.5 year old daughter and my mom recently pulled some crap where she didn’t see us or talk to us for 3 months and then blamed me cause I went back to work. This on top of years worth of other crap she has pulled with me and my husband, since having my daughter I just don’t want to deal with is or have it affect my daughter. My question is, how do you handle having a toxic relationship with a parent but then feel bad because you don’t want to keep them from the grandchild either?